Loss of our beloved kids Maynard & Ms Minnie

[dealmkrlasv]

Its been 2 years since we lost our Ms. Minnie to cancer (Female Basset) & 1 year since we lost our Maynard ( Male basset) to congestive heart failure and although we still have Ms. Millie & Max it still hurts like it was yesterday. All of our other dogs were buried at the Pet Cemetary. My insisted on having these 2 cremated and we have a little memorial to them on a special shelf with there picture in the bedroom. When we both look at it or think about them we get very emotional. I think if they were buried at the pet cemetary it would be much easier to let go. What is your opnion. Mike C

[Sarah]

Hi Mike, nice to meet you. I believe it's whatever you choose to do is fine. When Buddy passed 4 years ago, I kept his collar, his leash, his toys, especially his baseball. I also wrote his eulogy. If keeping their ashes makes you feel better, then so be it. If they do not, then you can go to their favourite park or someplace special, and release the ashes.

I don't have a dog yet, and it has been 4 years as I said since Buddy passed, and yes, even today, when I think about things we use to do I still cry. I'm sure it will get better if I just make that first move to getting another dog. Which I hope to do soon.,

[Blackshadow]

I had to have my last Black Lab put to sleep when she was 15 1/2 years old. It was the hardest thing i can remember ever having to do. The vet asked my wishes, and I chose to have her cremated, this way if i/we moved i could always taker with me. I know this sounds crazey to most people, but that's how close i was to my beloved pet. I swore i would never have another pet as long as i lived due to the grief i had felt. I think what ever feels best for you is the best choise.

Sarah, I felt the same as you, in fact 4 1/2 years after my loss, one day I just found myself at a very reputable breeder in my area, and a week later i had my 10 week old Black Lab Shadow home with me. The first day i was at the breeder's, i sort of ended up there, it was not planned. That was 15 months ago, and i am very glad i did. This dog has replaces or pluged a hole in my life, and every day he does something that reminds me of my first Lab. Don't wait much longer, i think it's time, and you will be suprised at how much better you will feel.

[Sarah]

Thank you Black Shadow, I don't plan on waiting much longer. I'm in the process of moving, going to buy a house, and after all that has settled, or before, I will get another dog.

[Pixies Mom]

Hi, I just joined a little while ago (16 mins) LOL! But I just wanted to say I've given a lot of thought about my dogs what to do when they pass as well as family members and of course, MYSELF, and I kept coming back to the same thought "what if we/they move?" If it were me I wouldn't want to be buried in a city where no one who loved me lived there anymore, it's probably silly, but I don't want to be 'alone" and I would have real trouble leaving even a deceased pet behind if I had to move. So I definitely am going that route, plus, I would just rather have them with me instead of in the cold, dark earth. That's just my opinion and what works for me so I understand that choice perfectly. Good Luck!